I dont know about you guys, but I am exhausted. I haven't even done much DYI-ing but i feel like i could fall asleep right now!
Bridesmaids are giving me some trouble. I LOVE all of them dearly!!! However... we have a size 00 all the way to a size 22. You can imagine the craziness this causes for me trying to find a flattering dress for them all. So i decided the nicest and easiest way for them to each have a dress to flatter them would be to let them pick their own dresses. Now, you all are thinking "she just made the biggest bridal mistake ever" and quite frankly i would agree with you but let me first tell you why i initially took this route. I though if i gave the girls a specific store, a specific color from that store, and the length of the dress i wanted that that would narrow down to a selection of 5 or 6 dresses that they would then choose resulting in 8 bridesmaids dressed in the same color from the same salon with little variation [maybe the biggest being a halter vs. spaghetti straps, or A-line vs. empire waist]. But of course not! Instead every one tried to get me to change my color and then salon i had chosen based on their personal preference! It was never about what they wanted! It was me trying to help them look the best they could in what IIIII wanted! is it going to be their dream dress? no. are they going to stand out? no. That's what gets to happen to ME. and when it's their wedding day, thats when it can happen for them. UHG.
I'm sure you ladies can relate. Also, I'm having a traditional Catholic mass. not all my BMs are Catholic, but that doesnt mean they can show up looking like they just came from a club! And the one's who are complying with what i have asked them to find in a dress just fuel the other maids not wanting to cooperate because they will pick a nice modest dress and the divas just think the dress is too baggy or too whatever!! So i think I'm scratching Mrs. Nice Bride off my list and I'm just going to lay down the law of exactly what I want them to wear. To makes it look like I meant to do it all along I will say "Thank you ladies for all your research and opinions on what the BM dresses should look like, it has helped me make the decision that you all will be wearing the _____ dress from David's Bridal in peacock!" That way its still clear that i have made a solid decision, but it also looks like i took their opinions into account. What do you think?
Also, at the beginning of this year i told myself i was going to work out 5 days a week for at least 30 mins. I've mostly been doing it 2 days a week, 3 if i'm feeeling really ambitious. Any advice on how to get motivated? I would tell myself that i dont want to look fat in my bikini when we're lying on the beaches of Punta Cana, but for modesty reasons, I will never wear a bikini so that really doesnt matter. Also I'm really comfortable around FH so its not even like i have any self consciousness to propell myself into work out mode. He has never seen any part of me naked [the closest thing would be me in a one-piece bathing suit last summer] so most would think I'd want to really impress him, but I AM really impressive, clothes on, and if he doesnt think so already, well then he wouldnt be marrying me. SO i guess that leaves one last motivating factor: health. I should want to work out because it keeps me healthy and physically strong. so any advice on how to remind myself of that? I eat gluten free and already stay away from junk food [with the exception of one weekly treat] so i guess I just feel like, I'm ok. But I want to have a baby 2 years from now and I want my body to be healthy and strong for him/her. Its hard for my future children to motivate me though because they seem so far away. I dont know... any suggestions?
Well, I'm going to California in a week to visit my mom and hopefully resolve this BM dress issue with her support.
On the bright side, she is throwing me a bridal shower while I'm down there. Since a lot of my California friends and family can afford to fly out to Ohio for my wedding this shower is their chance to celebrate early with me. I know 5 months is a little early, but spring break seemed like it was the best time!!
Hope you all are having happy planning!
- Sam
