~Our Renewals~ Hey my WBC family! I've been a little hush- hush lately. Our 14th wedding ann...
So my FH and I are Roman Catholic [I promise this is relative!]
I've noticed a lot of brides on here have been writing posts about waiting to have sex until the wedding night and such. I've also seen the people who said they want to wait be criticized.
So I just figured I'd add my 2 cents :)
Personally [I'm not trying to discount any other person's philosophy on this] I think its better to keep your virginity until your wedding night. If you've already lost your virginity, I feel that you should exercise abstinence until your wedding. Here's why:
The biggest part of your marriage ceremony are the vows. My definition the vows is defined simply as 'marital consent'. Using your free will you choose to give yourself as a gift to your spouse until 'death do you part'. Reciting the vows is the moment of self-gift because the vow SAYS I give myself... AND THEN the body completes [or consummates] the vows in sexual intercourse. So the vows express what the body is going to do. So, personally, the way i see premarital sex is that every one is doing it backwards! Your body is doing something you haven't verbally consented to yet! Of course its deeper than that, I also believe you grow in virtues when you abstain... but my most logical reason is that sex should come after you are married because then you live [or rather, act out] that self-gift you have made in the vow. There is a unity, you live that oneness that the self gift brings about in marriage. What belongs to your spouse now belongs to you and everyone else is excluded!
So there you have it ladies! I've saved my virginity for 20 years and i plan to keep it for 280 more days! Its the most intimate and special gift that i have been waiting to give a very special man, my FH. It hasn't been easy, and the Lord knows I've been faced with temptation, but I know what the light at the end of the tunnel looks like, and it involves the man of my dreams standing on an altar waiting for me too!
I am praying for all of you ladies as your special day draws closer! I pray that every woman called to married life will have a fruitful and truly blessed marriage!
Pace e bene!