01/16/2012
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Dress shopping update.

Hey ladies!!! I hope you had a great weekend!! Mine wasn't QUITE as bad as I had feared. Thank you all for your support the other day, in making me believe that I wasn't being bridezilla!!! Lol.

So I get there and my Mom and cousin J are the only ones there. It was SOOOOO packed in there, I couldn't believe it!!! So I had them pull Js size so we could at least get that started. I told her to start trying them on, and to rule any out that she hated, lol. She did rule out one, so that helped!! Lol. There were two that she really liked, so we set them aside.

My sister T got there and she tried on certain dresses, and had to go up two sizes, no biggie, here ya go. Those dresses always run small.

I realize my other sister(MOH) isn't there yet, so I call her, she thought the appt was at 130, not 1130!!!! So she felt really bad, but rushed in after I called. :) She already has her dress, so no biggie.

So FINALLY, cousin K gets there. Yes, the one I warned you all about, lol. Mind you, an hour late.

The lady asks her what size jeans she wears. She replies "I don't know." REALLY??? Who the hell doesn't know?!? So the lady asks her to guess, she starts huffing and puffing and tells the lady she has no clue, just buys them, and to just go get her something. So I follow the lady and apologize. It really was embarrassing.

So she tries on one dress, tells me the dress is awful and won't zip. So I look at it and tell her she just needs a bigger size. She FREAKS out and tells me that she is not going up to a size X because she's not that fat. Mind you, my super sensitive sister is in the next room trying on exact size X. So I just went "ssshhh" and put my finger to my mouth. K yells "I can't say anything right" and starts to shut the door. Here is where you all will be proud of me, lol. I grab the door, pull it open and tell her "I am NOT doing this today!!!" I'm telling you that right now." So she stopped for awhile.

Then we had it narrowed down to two dresses. Well one of my BMs is in Philadelphia, and she is the biggest, so I asked the girls which they thought she would be most comfortable in, and I also sent her pics of the dresses. She replies that she thinks they are too low cut. It must just be the pic, because they really aren't.

So they finally all decide on the dress in the picture I posted, but in black. I really like it, it is actually longer than the pic shows, it's just below the knees which SHOULD keep K happy, lol.

The one in Pennsylvania is really worried about it being too low cut, but she is going to try it on this week, hopefully that changes her mind.

I also had to check to see when the girls need to order them by, and the lady said mid Feb, LATEST end of February, but she wouldn't wait that long. So K threw a fit about that. She insists that she will be 5 dress sizes smaller by the time of the wedding. Who cares?????? I wish people would just be happy with themselves.


There's also an issue with shoes, but I'll explain that in a different post bc I want you alls opinions. So it did go well, and I had fun. I wish it would've been more fun, but obviosuly I can't have everything.

I do wish I wouldve gone with my first thoughts, and not had a couple of the girls in the wedding. I wish I wouldve just stuck to my sisters and cousin J. But I can't change that now, so I'm just hoping that me telling her that she hurt my feelings worked. Time will tell.

Sorry for the long post!!!! Have a great day ladies!!!

justmeandhim's Purple wedding
 |  Glendale, AZ, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
Yes there are so many times I second guess my self.  I kept my bridal party with one sis and 2 childhood friends.  I had other friends I could have asked but it would have been out of control!! lol!!
emilyt's Pink wedding
 |  Warsaw, IN, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
I'm just going to say this, i have a brother named Jayson and he was married to a Beth and has two daughters. Just throwing that out there lol. but as far as K goes, tell her to order the dress the size she is now. They can always take it in if she loses weight. It's better to buy a bigger size then guess what you might be later on. you can take fabric out but you cant add it.
emilyt's Pink wedding
 |  Warsaw, IN, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
Oh and K needs to stop being so selfish and worry about you because it's your day not hers.
christy1's Purple wedding
 |  Zambia  |  01/16/2012  | 
you handled the situation well sweetie so proud of you :) as for me what i did with my BM's dresses was give them my concept and let them choose the designs, when they chose all of them were happy and looked forward to buying fabric (we are having them tailor made) and the only hustle was with the guys paying up for their suits but thats ok now because some people just prefer to do things at last minute surprisingly. I hope your cousin K changes her attitude and that she realising that this is your day and you shouldn't be stressed, things should be easy peasy for you! xox
phillysgirl5's Pink wedding
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
Thanks girls, I actually only did family to avoid drama. Who knew she would act this way? :( @emilyt, that's too funny!!! I agree that she should order the dress her size, but I just have a feeling she is not going to. And I REALLY REALLY hope that she quits being so selfish and realize it's not about her. I guess only time will tell. Thank you agian ladies!!!!!!! It's so nice to be able to share the good AND the bad with you all!!!!! :)
hismrsb's Purple wedding
 |  Mississauga, ON, Canada  |  01/16/2012  | 
You did well honey!

trust me, sometimes family is the worst when it comes to weddings. I just told my girls, i want short and purple. Then we went shopping and the same day they found and ordered it. I have been so luck with my girls so far! that is one thing i am thankful for. as for K, tell she can order it now and if it needs to be taken in later then they can do it!

good luck & keep us posted :)

xox
littlelamb's Purple wedding
 |  Petrolia, ON, Canada  |  01/16/2012  | 
im so proud of you for sticking up for yourself girl! I feel like we both did ourselves proud this week :)
As for your cousin, I would tell her that she can order her dress small, but if it doesnt fit her by the time the wedding comes then she won't be standing up, or she'll need to pay the extra money for the extra material to make it her right size.
I really hope for your sake she is just going through something and that her attitude problems are not normal for her. I hope she can realize that you are honouring her by having her stand up with you during one of the most important days of your life and that she will start treating you better!
Very cute dresses btw! and if your one bm thinks it will be too low cut im sure a seamstress would be able to shorten the straps or add material to the neckline to make hre feel more comfortable!!

x0x!
phillysgirl5's Pink wedding
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  01/17/2012  | 
Thanks ladies!! @hismrsb, you are very lucky!!! Can you send some of that my way? HAHA. @littlelamb, that's EXACTLY what I was thinking, that if the dress doesn't fit, that she won't be standing up there. I did all their dresses the same for a reason, ya know? And I said the same thing about the other bridesmaid, I thought we could add some material to the top. I don't want her to be uncomfortable, ya know? Thank you soooo much for the support you guys, it really means so much to me!! :)
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