01/12/2012
bridesmaid. the crazy one.
bridesmaid. the crazy one.
   

Bridesmaids
Wish me luck! Trust me, I'll need it! :)

Hey ladies!!!!! So, me and my girls are going bridesmaid dress shopping this weekend!! My MOH already has her dress, so we shall see what happens. I have one bridesmaid I'm a little concerned about, so I'm hoping it's drama free!! Let me explain.

In NOVEMBER, I called all the girls and made sure that this Saturday, January 14 worked for all of them. They all said yes, worked perfect. So on Tuesday, I sent out a text reminding them all. The one I've had a few issues with texts me back that she thought it was Sunday, and she is going to have to bring her kids. Ugh. I LOVE kids, especially hers, but really? In a bridal shop while youre trying on dresses?? Her kids are 1 and 4.

When I say issues, this is what I mean. PLEASE tell me if I am overreacting!!!!!

The ONE and ONLY thing I asked the girls to do was go the bridal shop website and send me a couple of dresses that they each liked. Easy enough, right? The reason for this was so we aren't just wondering around the store. Sure, we can still look at other dresses, but I thought it would be easier to have them pull some dresses when we get there and go from there. Everyone sent me some, including the out of state bridesmaid, except for her. I finally asked her about it and she tells me that she will just go with whatever the other girls want. OOOKKKKKK.

Practically in the same breath, she tells me NO short dresses, she doesn't like her knees. And NO long dresses because it's going to be hot. Oh, and NO strapless because she isn't comfortable in them. REALLY? WTH?? What else is there? And that's the EXACT reason for sending me ideas!!!

I just have a feeling she is not going to like things, and moan and complain. I never dreamt she would be like this when I asked her to be in the wedding.

I've even joked about bringing the blinged out flask my cousin got me, lol. May very well need it! So anyway, two things, do you think I have reason to be upset???? And second, WISH ME LUCK!!! HAHA.

Happy Planning, Ladies!!!

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misskrysten's Pink wedding
misskrysten
 |  Phoenix, AZ, USA  |  01/12/2012  | 
Oh my lol you definitely have a reason to be upset!  Here you are...planning the date ahead of time, asking them for ideas and trying to be as accomodating as possible and she's just messing everything up LOL  If I were you, I would send her a text (or phone call) and just ask her if being in the wedding is going to be a problem for her?  Remind her that as a bridemaid, she'll be expected to go to fittings, attend bridal shower/bachelorette, rehersal dinner, etc.  

I AM WISHING YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD GIRL! LOL
tiffanyranaekasten's Orange wedding
tiffanyranaekasten
 |  Knox, IN, USA  |  01/12/2012  | 
Dont feel bad im having the same problem with my cousin who is a bridesmaid in my wedding.... I cant ever get ahold of her i havent talked to her since christmas and i tried to talk to her about my wedding and she blew me off and was more worried that she might be pregnant (which btw...she isnt) she was also supposed to throw my bachelorette party bc in my wedding both of my sisters r my maids of honor and they r both still in high school so my cousin was going to throw it for me but as u can guess she isnt actually idk if she is or isnt bc i cant ever get ahold of her i ordered my bridesmaids dresses which they r on my page and i wanted all my bridesmaids to come to the bridal shop and try them on so we could get an estimate about how much they will need to be resized SHE DIDNT SHOW UP not only that she didnt call me to tell me she wasnt showing up so i rescheduled it for another day this time she really was coming but the problem with that SHE WAS 2 HRS LATE we were all sitting there waiting for 2 hrs on her so i know how u feel with bridesmaids giving the bride the run around it sucks and i totally hate it i already had to ask someone else to do my bachelorette party and i just now asked and my wedding is in 5 months yay me but good luck :)
littlelamb's Purple wedding
littlelamb
 |  Petrolia, ON, Canada  |  01/13/2012  | 
Yikes! She`s got a lot of demands considering she'll just "go with what the other girls want"! I would be upset too. I don't like conflict, so therefore I am a very easy going bride. BUT if I were in your shoes I would pretty much just say it's one day, you can deal with your knees showing. I mean its her knees....its not like shes complaining that the she feels a short dress would unflatter her or make her feel extremely uncomfortable. And shes sayin No to both long and short? So what else is there? And what if all the other girls don't want to wear a dress that is in between short and long? I'd say she was the one who put the least interest in the dresses in the first place so therefore its a little too late to be putting her opinions in now.
And about the kids- i completely fell you...i LOVE kids, especially my friend's kids, but there are certain places that just arent "kid friendly" and unfortunately a bridal shop is one of them!
phillysgirl5's Pink wedding
phillysgirl5
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  01/13/2012  | 
Thanks girls!! I am def feeling a bit better about it knowing that I'm not alone and just being a bridezilla. I really don't know what she wants, and am hoping that I am just getting worked up and nervous about nothing. We shall see what tomorrow brings, and HOPEFULLY no drama. But I think if she starts to complain, I am going to have to tell her that she had ample opportunity to put her input it. It's nerve wrecking because we both have big personalities, and like you girls, I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I just want everyone to be happy, but that includes me!! lol. I'll let you all know how it goes and thank you again!!!! :)
littlelamb's Purple wedding
littlelamb
 |  Petrolia, ON, Canada  |  01/13/2012  | 
you are definitely right! Its nice to make everyone happy but in the end its your wedding and your happiness is what really matters:) I dont believe that this makes us "bridezillas" we all have the right to choose what we want for our wedding day. And when our bridesmaids get married, (or if they already are married) It will be their turn and we will do what makes them happy! In the end we only get to have a wedding once and therefore we shouldn't feel bad for doing what WE want :) (I find i have to remind myself of this a lot...)
justmeandhim's Purple wedding
justmeandhim
 |  Glendale, AZ, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
No you are not overreacting.  I just think people don't care as much as we do and just do their own thing, it's soooooo frustrating!!!!!! I hate it!!!!!!!!!!!
phillysgirl5's Pink wedding
phillysgirl5
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  01/16/2012  | 
Thanks ladies! It is hard, and I hate it too!!! I just posted how it went, lol. Not great, but not QUITE as bad as I had prepared myself for. Thank you all for your support!!! :)
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