This is ladypaws's Blue Wedding!

Why is it in a mens stag they go the the stripers and get lap dances or worse and think they can get away with what they do...

BUT

when it is the Brides stagette we go out have fun and not surround ourselves with sexual exp.

mine went out o the 7th and I found out last night what he did with a striper. He had a lap dance which whatever but I didn't think the the stripers boobs were going to be all over him! he even told me that "she was beating my face with them" and then laughed.

to me that is way out of bounds after 8 years.

well the wedding is only about 2 weeks away...and I think I just did my speech... i don't really get up and say much but my family is really a bunch of rednecks so there really isn't much to say but Kendals family isn't rednecks...

one little qoute that i did say is after thanking everyone for coming is about my dad ( he is wrangler guy blue or blue and he is wearing a black pin stiped suit)"
..."Doesn't my dad look great...without a shoutgun in his hand, which I thought that would be one of his accessories ...for this event tonight..."

see my family would laugh and laugh lol but I don't know about his ...but relly should I care after 8 years they should know me....

lol

One Night a girl One Night a girlfriend and I went out to Billy Bobs in Red Deer. Our goal was to pick up as many guys numbers as we could and at the end of the night we would see who was the winner... just a friendly bet between friends !!!

So when we got there was started our prowl.
As we were standing at the bar getting another drink we scouted out the door ... I was trying to get the bouncers attention when in walked a "tall dark and handsome man" and we locked eyes.

I proceeded to blatantly stare at him for about 5 seconds then we received our drink and walked away! Well about a 1/2 and hour we thought that we would take walk around the bar and head over to another bar called Mortts which was right next to Billy Bobs and do a round their and then come back just to change it up a bit...

as we left I noticed that we were being followed by the tall dark handsome guy with one of his buddies... I didn't really care so we kept walking and went back to Billy Bobs...

When we came in the Bouncer nodded and said welcome back... we walked in and went to the bar once again for another drink and up walks a few guys asks us if we were wanting a drink ... my friend and I said yes of course and we began talking... as we were finished talking I ran to the bathroom and came back to another guy asking if we wanted a beer he had it in his hand I said sure haven't 2 beers in my hand the tall dark and handsome man walked up from behind me said "hi, I was going to ask you if you wanted a beer but it looks like your hands are full." I looked at the 2 beers in my hand and put one down and held out my hand and asked him what his name was.

My name is Kendal he said. That night he took me out for 2 breakfasts and coffee that was March 28th and on March 31 we started dating and that day I met his mother. a month later we were pregnant (on 2 modes of birth control and our fist time)6 years later with another child he asked for my hand and now we are finally getting hitched!

well since my last post I thought that I would ake you more into what has gone on in my spouses life and the reason why we weren't engaged for 6 years and the fact that we have been together for 8 years....

When he was first hitched Kendal went to the US for work and training... he fell in love with a girl who was Salt lake city... since Kendal was from Canada he travelled all the time to see her...

after they were hitched she didn't realize how much he was gone for work... he was working in the oilfield working 21 days on and 7 off and she didn't like the fact that her family was so far away, and she felt left allown...

things turned sour and she seeked help and partnership out of the marriage, she turned to his friends and co workers and became peragnant.

Soon with in the first three months they tried to make it work but it didn't she became home sick and left for home... Their daughter was born, and with Kendal not knowing if the little girl was his or not he signed away any parental rights and signed the devorce papers... he didn't want to but he didn't have enough money to fight for them. She didn't want Kendal around anymore and didn't want any contact threw the little girl. Kendal and I still let everyone know that we have 3 Kids, one of them living with her mother in Utah.

Kendal was scared in the fact that he didn't want the same thing to happen with him and I... He had to know that we were both there for the right thing and love was always going to be there.... and with the time that has pasted we have been threw everything...

When we met post coming up ....

I am normally not a show offy kind of girl... but since I wasn't I thought that I would do this for my man... He works away in the oilfiend and sometimes is away for long weeks at a time... and he is truely commited to our family and each other... we communicate always... he has be hitched once and his x cheated on him 3 months in the vows ...with all his friends....ANYWAY

so I though that i would do this for him in a keepsake book and or Cd so he can take these photos with him if he is wanting...

http://ambphotos.ca/trish-boudoirs/

I think that all I have left to do is paying everyone... I think ...I am going to have to find a good check list anyone know a good site that they could suggest?

thanks ladies!

http://www.brides.com/planning/astrology/matematcher?bridesign=gemini&groomsign=capricorn&x=36&y=12

Bride Gemini
Groom Capracorn

Youthful optimism meets mature wisdom when Gemini and Capricorn unite. No matter what his age, your Capricorn was born a pragmatic old soul—he can provide a solid measure of stability in your high-wire, happy-but-hapless existence. You live by the seat of your pants so often, it's nice to take the long, safe road home with a companion at your side, instead of always taking thrilling, risky new shortcuts on a solo mission. Your brilliant mind and quick wit will earn his admiration, and you can inspire him to be a bit more optimistic and innovative rather than taking his usual staid, cynical approach.

Need to work on
You love instant gratification and living in the moment, Gemini, while your Capricorn never wastes time or money on frivolity, deferring pleasure to suit his long-term goals. Your romantic style is usually to dive in headfirst and then maintain the infatuation for as long as it suits your fancy. However, your Capricorn man is so slow to warm that you may feel like you've been put on hold while he's focusing on his other true love—his work. You both like to know your mate's deepest secrets while keeping mum about your own, which could make you feel like you're at an emotional stalemate. You're the sign of childhood, Gemini, while Capricorn is the sign of fatherly discipline, so your relationship can sometimes feel like a battle of wills, not to mention agendas.

making it last
Let him be your "grounding rod" once in a while, Gemini—your manic, insatiable curiosity doesn't have to run the show all the time. You're a communicator and he's a leader, so you can get a lot of tasks accomplished if you combine your talents. Gemini, use your silver tongue for some topflight salesmanship and let your CEO Capricorn handle all the financial planning and details. Keep yourself occupied while he's doing overtime at the office—stay connected with all the friends and interests you had before the two of you met. Let him know you'll always come back home and he'll save a spot for you beside him on the private jet when his ship comes in.

our song hahaha
"Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye

Ok here is the deal... for my Stagette I gave full range for the girls (bridesmaids) to plan everything which is fine I wanted to dress up as a world war 1 nurse not with the whole outfit but when they were off duty so a camo cream green pencil skirt and a white shirt and finger curls with very red lip stick...

None of the girls want to dress up so I was or am dissapointed... I am going to do my hair in finger curls still ... and now I was thinking with my white corset camy cover and nice jeans with cute shoes...

the only thing is that I am not the kind of girl so I want to go out and have fun with something that I normally don't do... but still want to be myself.

http://www.fashion-era.com/hats-hair/hats_hair_9_hairstyles_history_1940_1945.htm

My spouse and I had decided to get hitched almost 3 years with the date in mind ... HIS brother who wasn't seeing anyone until 2 years go maybe a little less decide that they want to get hitched...they aren't apying for anything. they are on Welfare. they don'[t want to get jobs. and the girl he is seeing...has two kids that don't like wearing clothes... and they don't eat properly...not saying that my kids eat totally healthy but we don't have junnk food in the house other then on special days and if they earn it.... you know rooms clean , being good...

ANYWAY so they decide that "since you guys' are getting hitched this year we want to too, July 31." that is what Kendal's brother said and all I can thibk about is wow Kendal and I have been together after 8 hard years with money and problems with money and credit and you guys are going to come in a steal our thunder ...yes ok so it isn't just our year but wow they have no idea how to even get threw a day of even just work because they refuse to get jobs... how grown up is that!!!

they have no idea on how to make a marridge wow because they are still acting like kids themselves and to top it all off they drop her to kids off at Kendal's fathers house because they need a break ... they don't ask kendals father before they do it they just come over for a "visit" and tell him that they have tickets to a movie and tell kendal s father they will be back by a certian time... GR

Kendal's brother and his soon to be wife make my blood boil... I feel they have no buisness thinking that everyone else should pay for there ignorance... and unwill to pitch in to life, family and being grown ups. gr

sorry guys I just had to get it off my chest my good friend tells me I shouldn't let it get to me but wow it does....

My Biological mother wasn't in my life hardly when I was growing up so when I was first pergnat I wanted to tell her how I felt and how she has missed everything in my life and that I was pregnant...

I guess I wanted to see if she still gave a poop about me.

Anyway, Now after 8 years of my futrue hubby in my life she is wanting to be in every detail in my life and now I am feeling smother'd

She is the type of person that only thinks of her self I have 2 other sister one was giving away because she didn't want her in her life at that time (not my blood sister different father) and the other is emotionally well Way out there...

She wants to come to my stagette and she told me that she would take my daughter (7) for my wedding night but not my son (2.5) and still in dippers at night... THEN she asks me what kind of mother of the brides dress she should get...She sent a photo of a dress she was thinking about purchuse'n and wow it was skin tight ino bra would be worn and doesn't fit her at all... I told her something classy not trashy....

I have never had an appology for her walking away from me and not wanting to see me because her guilt was to strong. what should I do???? HELP