I thought a larger wedding party would make the planning easier since I would have more helping hands to make up for me being across the country....holy eff was I wrong. Despite a long list of reasons why a larger wedding party is harder, this one BM inparticular is driving me nuts.
Most of my family was already against her coming to the wedding because she dated my cousin and then they broke up and a few weeks later she gets engaged to another guy (that's a whole different story). But I didn't listen because we had been friends for 10 years and we always have a great time together. Anyway, one of my other BMs sends out a message to everyone to order their dress by February and that they were currently on sale, etc. And this difficult BM ignores all messages. Then she's singled and asked if she ordered yet and she's like "no, whatever I'll pay the extra $20"...actually it was $50 off but alright moneybags. Then she says she'll order it the next weekend so we leave it at that.
April comes around and I call to find out the status of the dresses and none of them had been ordered yet because they were waiting for this one last order!!!!! So I call her and she apologizes and says she's ordering from a store near where her boyfriend live and that she'll take care of it. Having my doubts about her at this point I follow up with the store where the rest of them ordered to see what was taking place. She told the store she had already ordered. A lie. But not wanting to be the nagging bride I leave it be.
Now it is 25 days before my wedding, the other girls just got their dress two weeks ago (leaving barely any time for alterations) and this one selfish lil BM is still waiting for hers to arrive. And all she says is "not to worry, it will be here well before the wedding". Less than 25 days is not "well before". And she keeps talking about tracking the shipment so she obviously just ordered from some sketchy site and didn't even have the decency to order from a store or talk to me about it. Like is she still supposed to be a BM if she doesn't have her dress? And it's her own fault. And she could have potentially really screwed up all the other BMs' dresses. So not only has she not helped pick out anything or offer to help make things, she has added a completely unnecessary stress! Dumb.
