Well Ladies, I just added up again how much this wedding is going to cost. I have been pretty ...
Okay so I know weddings are not cheap, but i always thought that we would be able to have an elegant wedding that didnt cost as much as a car... apparently i have been living in an alternate universe. My fiancé and I will be paying for the wedding ourselves, Im sure our parents will try to contribute as much as they can but I dont want to depend on anyone to pay for our day. One of my biggest fears is that someone will back out last minute and well end up without something important like the cake, so Ive always known that the money will be coming out of our pockets, the only problem is that my FH is kinda in-between jobs and I pay most of our bills right now so money is always tight.
To complicate things even more, my other half could actually care less about the whole process; he would be just fine with a quick trip to the courthouse. Unfortunately for him I have been dreaming of this day my whole life, and I would honestly rather not get married than get married at the courthouse. I know thats a little dramatic but were both Catholic and Ive been dreaming of a big church wedding since I was a kid (which he has graciously agreed to since he loves me so much <3 ). So when we got engaged I started working on a budget and the more research I do the more freaked out I get, it is absolutely ridiculous how expensive some of this wedding crap is! $40.00 for a garter that my future husband is supposed to basically throw away? Cake cutting fees? I am so completely overwhelmed and a little bit irritated with myself and all the rest of the brides out there who willingly fork over all this cash for just one day. Were definitely all nuts.
With that being said I still want my dream wedding, Im just not willing to go into debt for it. So Im curious how many of you feel the same way? What are you doing about it? Should I give up on my dream or sacrifice something else for our special day?
Speaking of sacrificing something, after many long conversations we have decided (maybe) to move in with my future mother in law for a year in order to save money and have the wedding of my dreams. The only person Ive ever lived with other than my parents is my FH, so Im a little nervous about living with his mom. Have any of you done this? If so how did it go? What would you be willing to give up- your independence? Your privacy? Or maybe even a little of your sanity? All in order to have your dream wedding? Or are we making a huge mistake?
Until next time, Happy Planning!