08/06/2010
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How do I NOT invite Kids

Here is the dilemma. I will have some children in my bridal party and then my neice and nephews( 7 kids total) at the wedding, but after writing up a guest list we are looking at a lot of kids. It is at around 50 if everyone brings thier kids...and they probably would. I really dont want 50 kids running around the wedding PLUS we are having an open bar.

Is it bad to invite those in my immediate family and not other???

AND THE BIG QUESTION IS....How do I word it on the invitations so people do not get too offended? I'm not worried about the few that get offended by the weather...just the majority.

The ceremony AND reception are all held in the same room...so it can't be no kids just at the reception. It would have to be no kids at the whole event.......

Let me add that I'm not the super sensitive type, but I dont want to come off tacky either....

****Yes, that is my little Flash Gordon in the picture.....
kids, children, invitations, reception, ceremony, adult only
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tholmen08
 |  Indian head, SK, Canada  |  08/06/2010  | 
A lot of people don't have children at the reception, just write something nice and professional like "Adult Only Reception"
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loislovesclark
 |  Philadelphia, PA, USA  |  08/06/2010  | 
Frankly, I think it is completely appropriate to tactfully mention that the wedding/reception is for adult guests only, and that people should understand that the children in the wedding party do not count.

When it comes to nieces and nephews and cousins and god-children, I think it can get tricky there. Would you be able to set an age limit that might elimitate friends' children but not nieces and nephews?

One good way is to state on the response card "2 seats have been reserved in your honor", this should get the point across that you are inviting your co-worker and her husband and not their 6 year old...
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ceccard1
 |  Oklahoma city, OK, USA  |  08/06/2010  | 
The problem is the ceremony and reception are at the same place and it is all in a big ballroom so it would have to be adult only everything.

@ loislovesclark  Great idea!! I like the wording of that.

I;m not against children....just mobs...and 50 is a mob.
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unpredictablebride
 |  Harvey, IL, USA  |  08/06/2010  | 
I put adult only reception on mine and for the few cousins my Husband wanted there, we just called them and said Hey your kids can come if you choose.

Your ceremony may have kids there but if you place adult only RECEPTION people know that kids are not welcome there.
Also on your RSVP cards you can put for each family how many seats have been reserved in their honor.

If the Smith family is Mom & Dad plus 3 kids and you don't want those kids, just tell them 2 seats have been reserved in their honor. It eliminates unwanted guests in a tasteful manner
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jennyl1211
 |  Philadelphia, PA, USA  |  08/06/2010  | 
I have seen quite a few wedding ivites that said adults only receptions... OR just put the couples names and dont put the kids names,,,,  People should get the hit.. totally not rude!!
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hannikay
 |  Flowery gully, Sant julia de loria, Australia  |  08/06/2010  | 
We aren't having kids either, but I haven't thought about how to word it on the invite yet.

To be  honest, I don't care if they throw a tantrum and say "Well there's no one to look after them, so we can't come at all!"... I'll be like, fine, great, now I can invite more FRIENDS because we are OBLIGED to invite relatives. And my venue can only hold 80 max, so I'm cutting friends out all over the place. :(  One of my aunties has ELEVEN kids, under 23. ELEVEN. I am not paying $50 a head for their family!! NOOOO....!

Haha, sorry for the rant. ;) If any ring up to complain, just tell them that if you were millionaires you would LOVE to have their kiddlings join in the fun. :) But we simply can't manage it.  *angel halo*
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heathermae
 |  Waterford, MI, USA  |  08/06/2010  | 
Our invitations were worded as "no small children please".
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ladydamm
 |  Windsor, ON, Canada  |  08/07/2010  | 
i recently went to a wedding that wasn't allowed kids at the reception. and they had kids in their wedding party. no one was offended and if they were they certainly hid it well and had a great time!

in the invitation under the reception information it said that an ADULT ONLY reception was to follow. i'm sure people will get the point.
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mrsmosley
 |  Charlotte, NC, USA  |  08/07/2010  | 
I think it perfectly fine to request this. We included on our invites "adult ceremony and reception". There really wasnt any fuss. Goodluck to you hope it goes well.
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fabulousbride2011
 |  Arlington, VA, USA  |  09/02/2010  | 
Ok, you don't want kids there, but whats going to happen with the kids at the bridal party are you going to tell them that they have to leave, I can understand that you dont want a whole lot of kids your receptions, but don't blame it on because its going to be open bar because you having kids at your bridal party. Why try to limit the number of people that have kids come to your wedding on don't have children in your bridal party if you don't want no kids at the reception and what is the children in your bridal party suppose to do with nothing but adults there, they are going to be bored. Look at the whole picture. I mean if you don't want kids there , then don't have them in your bridal party
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fabulousbride2011
 |  Arlington, VA, USA  |  09/02/2010  | 
Sorry to post again, I was just reading what other people wrote and it just make me sick what some people post like hannikay. People who DONT HAVE KIDS, DONT KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE THEM and if you know that the person have kids don't invite them to the wedding and hannikay  you don't have to be so mean
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ceccard1
 |  Oklahoma city, OK, USA  |  09/17/2010  | 
@ fabulousbride2011 - SO Im not sure if you were having a bad day or if you mis read my post. I am not saying I do NOT want children there, but I don't know if I want 50-60 kids there. The main concern is my budget. I am limited on funds and there are several people that I would be leaving out so that someone else could bring thier kids that I dont know.
I will obviously have a small group of kids there either way since I have to invite my familly's children.
Also, dont forget that everyone is allowed thier own view just as you are. Having or not having children has nothing to do with paying for that many children to be at a reception. It's a numbers game.
Thanks for your side of the story;)
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