This is actadych's Chocolate Wedding!

A simple movie night-in turned into a proposal! I saw this on the internet and thought I would share it!

The movies he got spelt out ' Will You Marry Me"!!

Pretty cute & creative for movie lovers :)

Whatever you do, DON'T sweat the small things, TRUST me, it not worth putting yourself through any agony, heartache, or frustration. Looking back, you will feel like a fool for making such a huge deal out of a small issue.

If something doesn't go 'your way' that's OK. Life is not over... and your day will turn out just as amazing as you've imagined your whole life.

Take things one day at a time... things will come up, and you will have to change things about your wedding. Deal with these as they come... it will cause you less stress if you have back-up plans for the more important things ie: reception venues (construction/double bookings, fires happen all the time) Churches... always have a back-up place for your wedding... especially if getting married outdoors, even churches can have things come up!!

Always make time for the two of you all this planning business is hard on your relationship. And although it's hard at times, try not to take frustrations, anger or anxiety out on FH.
Men are Men... most don't see the point in all the small details, and don't care about them... all they want is to marry you... they don't care where it is, when it is, how many people are there, what you're wearing... he wants to be with you, and he wants it to be for the rest of his life.

Remember that your wedding does not make your marriage. Just look at all the celebrities who pour millions into their weddings, how many of those marriages last? Of course you want all of it to live up to your dreams, but remember to be realistic, and to stay grounded. Once this day is over, you still have a life to live, and all those family and friends you might have argued or disagreed with will STILL be there in your life!

Remember that it is OK to do things differently, the way you do things might be different from your friends, mother in laws, sister in laws, FH's way of doing things... but they are there, and they are trying. Be patient with them.

Remember to thank people who are going out of their way for you. You may assume that it's :their duty: as a Brides Maid, or Maid of honor, or FMIL... but they don't always know what their duties are.
Remember to thank them even BEFORE the wedding.

Most of all, remember that sometimes the 'for worse' comes before the 'for better'.
Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, and forget the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said that it would be easy, they just pomised it would be worth it.

Well we've reached the 100 day mark of our marriage, and it's been anything but a cake walk.

Since our wedding there's been some hard ship... some family members of mine have either passed away or have been given only months to live.

Our 'honeymoon' was a trip to WI where hubby is from... it was good for him to get to see his family especially since only his mom and 2 grandparents made the effort to come to our wedding. It was hardly a honeymoon though... they expected us to do things with them the entire time, and kicked up a stink anytime we wanted to just be alone. We ended up spending money on one family member in particular who had known we were coming for months and just didn't bother to save up for our visit (of course we would be doing SOME activities with his family, i just hadn't anticipated every single day).
We are hoping and praying we're able to go away in the spring for our REAL honeymoon to someplace warm sunny and secluded.

We are still living with my parents... not exactly something we had in our '1 year plan'. Hubby's immigration to Canada from the US is taking much longer than anticipated and it doesn't look like it will be arriving anytime in the next 6-8 months. Hubby can't work so I'm working a full time job and we still aren't able to make ends meet.... our car just up and died and we can't get a loan because my student loan is so high.... life since the wedding has been nothing but frustration and sadness, and its really starting to take its toll on our relationship.
My parents love us, but they don't want us in their home any more than we want to be there... right now its our only option and not one im exactly proud of.
When you think of getting married you think of being on your own and starting your own life.... and we are far from it.
All of my friends are now engaged or married... they ALL have their own homes and are either starting to have children or are getting puppies... and here we are in our bedroom in the basement of my parent's house.... we share everything else with them.... they still treat me like im a teenager and nag at my husband because he's home ALL the time... ( he cant work though, he has 2 friends here and no transportation...) Where do they expect him to go?? What do they expect him to do??? ITs really getting to him the constant nagging and we're really getting to our wit's end.

We just keep telling ourselves '"sometimes the 'for worse' comes before the 'for better'....and we're just going through the for worse first."

we need our own place, our own privacy, and our own lives.

SO, I wasn't completely satisfied with our wedding photos, so we went a few weeks ago and had a few more taken with a different photographer.

Don't get me wrong we loved our wedding pictures, but our photographer had been a landscape photographer first and then became a wedding photographer so some of the photos we feel were just a great landscape shot that we just happened to be in...

I didnt want to regret it for the rest of our lives so we booked a session with another photographer and these are just a few of the ones we have back so far. We loved her and HIGHLY recommend her to anyone getting married! She is willing to travel so its amazing!!

God I love being married.

Here's the story from our wedding!

I was in bed and sleeping like a baby by 11 pm the night before!
I woke up at 7:30 had some coffee... met my bridal party at the salon for 8:30 hair was done by 9:30.

Went back to my mom's house to get my make up done outside (natural lighting).

Photographer showed up by 10:30

Groomsman picked up the flowers with the Groom. Florist only had 4 bouquets made... supposed to have made 6.... then she charges them for the extra two even though its HER mistake.... what ever... I'm keeping cool! Its not a huge deal.

All of our centre pieces went missing... no one could find them ANYwhere..... so I sent my brother to town to get some fish to put in our bowls.... comes back $70 later with beta fish..... $70 for fish!!!! ....ok, no big deal... its my wedding, I'm keeping cool.....

Then the flowers arrive at my mom's house..... NOT what I ordered.... the flowers themselves are what I wanted BUT the florist stuck it in one of those UGLY TACKY white plastic holders.... I specifically ASKED for a hand-wrapped bouquet..... Its ok.... its ok.... its too late to change 6 bouquets..... but I called the florist to let her know I was not happy with her work.

She gets pissed off at ME!!?? and hangs up..... calls back later... I'm in tears by now and not happy.... the day is off to a rough start... I tried to keep cool but that kinda just broke the camels back....

Mean while, 4 of my 5 girls aren't back from the hair dresser and have yet to have their makeup done... its pushing 12:00... wedding is at 2. They aren't dressed or anything.... I have no pictures of me getting into my dress because I had to do it on my own.... there was no one there to help.... Its ok though... no that big of deal... just not how I imagined my wedding day morning to go.....

SO next thing ya know the florist is showing up at my moms house!!! she's pissed off and arguing with me.... so professional!. I just said to her "listen, its too late to have what I want, I only called you to tell you that I wasn't happy with your work, we specifically said we wanted hand wrapped boquets and this is not hand wrapped bouquet..." she goes into the living room (where the photographer is supposed to be taking pictures of us girls... and starts tearing my boquets apart!! (the stems were all cut off because in the white holder thing is just florist foam holding the flowers in...... Then she just takes twigs tapes them to the handle and wraps that in ribbon... 'there its fixed' .... still not a hand wrapped bouquet but whatever, I'm gonna let this go... its really not that big of deal I guess.

After thats all over... its fine.... the girls are here, they're slowly getting their make up done and getting dressed... time for me to go outside and get some pre-wedding pictures. Its soo hot and Muggy... sweating like crazy.... but its ok... better than rain!!

Finally everyone's ready.... except 2 of the groomsmen (aka my slow brothers) who didn't see the point in going to where the groom, and other boys are getting ready... photographer is waiting on them so he can get some candid shots... not happening.. its 1:15 and my brother is just getting in the shower... and still has to shave and get dressed..... Its ok... not a huge deal.... its my wedding day.

We get going, we get the guys on the move and my dad and mom drive me to the church..... we're there at ten to 2.... there are still swarms of people walking into the church..... so we had to go drive around the block a few times..... its ok... its Air Conditioned....and its my wedding day!

FINALLY we get back, every things set to go!! The ceremony is perfect.... It goes by smooth except when I try to read the vows Ive written.... I start crying... practically mumbling... Fh gets the idea though... lol. its ok.... not a big deal... its my wedding.

I tried to put the ring on the wrong finger... and actually argued when he held up his left hand... lol.... typical me... not a huge deal... everyone got a laugh out of it... it broke the ice... its ok.... its my wedding.

Off we go after we're married... pictures in the church yard... then to an AMAZING, huge cottage to get our pictures taken, then down to the beach... we drive around with our photographer in front.... when we see him slam on our brakes we know he's seen someplace great! After 4 hours of pictures its time for us to head back for the reception!!

In the meantime, we had a cocktail hour at our reception venue... beer, punch, and wine with steamed mussels and shrimp. Everyone was having a good time!!

we get in, we're introduced then we eat!!! We asked that all speeches and toasts be held till after we ate... didn't want to be talking or kissing with our mouths full!

MC goes off the cuff because we forgot to write down the order of things for him... no big deal.... everyone things its hilarious....and has a good time..... its going great, and its my wedding!

The thing that made the night was when we played 'who's more' also known as the shoe game.... Ill list it below... its really an awesome ice breaker for the crowd!!!!

after that, I had my 2 surprises for my Husband... first the 'messages from away' only 3 of his family members could make it to our wedding and so I had written a lot of his family and old friends and they left messages and words of wisdom for him... he was so surprised and really moved by it... It was awesome!!

Then I had the letter I had received from the Green Bay Packers (his favorite team). Congratulating us on our marriage.... he LOVED that!!! so did the guests!! No one could believe that I had gone through all that work!!

Then it was time for dancing!! and BOY did we dance!!! Such a good night..... the rest is history.... a bad, bad start to the day, but once I walked in that church it all floated away.


*Ill have to find the one we did... but if you GOOGLE shoe game there are a list of questions... ours was a little bit more fun than the ones i found on google today... ill post it later!*

just what the subject says...
Pics from our big day... all by our photographer, Peter Tzagarakis
Our photographer was at my home at 10:30 am and stayed till 10:30 pm... he said he took well over 900 Pictures!!!
We're putting the 'best' 100 in an album but will have the rest of them on disc.

Almost everything went off absolutely perfect!!!


Some of the better ones are by our photographer, the rest are from Guests! We didn't choose locations for our pictures... we just drove around and when we saw the photographer slam on his brakes we stopped and got out! Made for some amazing shots.

Can't wait for the rest!!

5 Days to go Ladies!!! Well, 4 According to WBC, but let's not rush it too much!! Still sooo much to be done, the CRUNCH is on now!

Can't wait for our big day to finally be here, after months and months of worrying, planning, working, and organizing, hopefully it will all fall into place... and if not, oh well, I'm not too worried.

We've taken care of all the MAJOR things, marriage license, dress, rings, minister, church, guests, food, hall, and DJ so if the smaller things don't work out, I'm not too worried... We have everything we need to get married, and to Party!

Probably wont be on WBC all too much this week...

Tuesday: I work Family and friends from away start arriving .
still have TONS of stuff to do...

Wednesday: I work 9.5 hrs and then I have more family coming... I took Thurs Fri and Sat off... (of course).

Thursday: we have our Rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner,

Friday: is the day for decorating hall and church and for getting last minute things together.

... then its Saturday before we know it!!! Crazy how fast it all flies by.

WISH US GOOD LUCK AND GOOD WEATHER!!

THANKS TO ALL THE WBC BRIDES (SOME OF WHICH ARE NO LONGER ACTUALLY ON WBC) WHO'VE HELPED ME ALONG THE WAY!! YOU'RE ALL A GREAT BUNCH OF LADIES, AND ITS SUCH A BLESSING TO HAVE A PLACE LIKE THIS THAT WE CAN GO TO TO VENT, SHARE IDEAS, STORIES, AND HELP ONE ANOTHER OUT!

THANKS SOOO MUCH!!!!!! LOVE YA'S ALL

So If you've read my post about my not -so-awesome Maid of Honor and our jack & Jill wedding shower, you'll see where I'm coming from.

My Bachelorette was on Saturday... it was a 'surprise' although I kind of had this feeling that it was then.

Basically we went and took lap-dancing lessons and poledancing lessons. That was fun don't get me wrong but that's because I told my MOH that's what I wanted to do.
THEN I find out that she didn't even invite my younger sister who's 18 AND a BM and sooo would've had a great time.

She named off all the 'friends' of mine that she invited... about 5 or 6 of them I haven't been friends with or have spoken to since I was in 9th grade. I GAVE her a list of my friends to invite... and she didnt!! There were a few girls that showed up that I am acquaintences with... but that's because they are friends of my BMs!!
So needless to say I was ditched a few times throught out the course of the day. The only 3 friends of mine were 2 who I just met through work in October, and my friend who's 6 months pregnant.

For supper, they had a BBQ... boy did they put a lot of effort into that! NOT !! They just showed up at my aunt's house because she lived close to where we took the lessons... and asked her if we could have a BBQ there... put her on the spot... so she said yes. They only brought HOT DOGS to eat..... and Every single one of them I've known since I was born.... and they ALL knew that I don't like, and don't eat hot dogs... so my poor aunt felt so bad cause I hadn't eaten all day she went and made me some burgers.

They all thought to bring their own liquor. No one had liquor for me. My aunts made jello shooters and bought me my liquor. When we went out to the bars, my friends from work paid for me to get in and paid for my drinks. The girls in my bridal party met up with their BFs and ditched me... my girls from work had to leave because they had to work at 5am the next morning so I was literally walking around this bar where I hardly knew anyone...

Anyways I made the best of it.... and made some one-night friends lol.


Anyways, just had to rant...